À La Babymoon

Day 1 – July 23rd 2020

Well, the decision was finally made to take a little ‘pre babester trip’.
We talked about doing some sort of trip off and on, back and forth for awhile but I couldn’t make up my mind…

On one hand it sounded appealing and like something we should indeed do while we could still enjoy the freedom of not having a small person to tend to and on the other hand it sounded like a very, very uncomfortable drive and a frivolous use of funds when the list of needed baby items isn’t checked off yet 🤪

What really did it was when friends/family from BC told Mike that they were going to be in Jasper area during an upcoming weekend.
Due to the Covid nonsense, our June guests hadn’t been able to come out and any other travel plans were not sitting high on the predictability scale, so Mike was feeling the need for socializing pretty strongly, so it worked to make the trip dual purpose 😜

We decided to leave Thursday afternoon after a morning of doctor appointments.
One ultrasound and check up for me and the babe and one check up for Mikes knee which had been swollen and inflamed for over a week, due to too much kneeling at work 😬

The ultrasound tech said the baby was looking like he weighed around 4lbs 10oz annnnd then asked who in the family had the big head because his was big.

Great, thank you, JUST what a pregnant lady wants to hear, that her ‘not to be born for weeks yet’ child, already has a big noggin 🤪👍🏻
All else was fine though, so we continued on, trying to dismiss that bit of information 😉

(I also think he looked better at 20 weeks…lets hope it was just a bad picture day 🤪)

Mikes appointment was supposed to be routine but turned into them draining off some fluid to send to the lab.
As he sat getting clammy hands and taught limbs, I tried to reassure him that it was more than likely just gonna be your average size needle and not to worry.
It WAS NOT your average sized needle and I don’t know if I’ll be able to handle this whole ‘birth a baby thing’ 😂🙈
I knew I did NOT want to look but even while turned away, the doctors instrument sounds and then Mikes intake of breathing while the doctor took his sweet time moving the large needle around in his knee, was enough to make me want to be somewhere else.
I know to anyone in the medical field that will sound utterly pathetic but it’s the truth 🙈

Once we were finally done those tasks, the babymoon could officially commence!

Mike wanted to take me to eat at ‘The Lark’ in Shell Lake.
A restaurant he and his fellow construction comrades had ate at during a stint working in that area and they all talked about its delicious menu options 😉

We shared a Cajun burger and onion rings and it really was worth their glowing reviews 😉

A large patty, really tasty sauce and that sloppy aspect that generally come with when it’s a good, flavourful, juicy burger 🤓👍🏻

From that area it was only a 4.5 hr drive to Edmonton, where we’d be making our first stop.

It was a pretty uneventful drive.
The canola fields were in full bloom, so they periodically brightened up the landscape with vibrant yellows and greens.

We listened the first ‘Father Gilbert’ mystery produced by Focus On The Family to pass some time, didn’t snack to too much at all and generally just passed the time in contemplative silence and watchfulness of the passing surroundings 😉

We did broach the subject of naming our soon to be offspring… not sure we got very far, though it was my hope that by the end of the trip we’d have come to an agreed consensus 😏
I thought we had it narrowed down to three possible names and would make our choice from those, when Mike begin chucking out all these ‘other’ names, in turn aggravating me because I’ve read so many stupid lists of baby names and he just repeats the most common ones around cause they are what he’s comfortable with and I feel like it would be easier to leave the child UNAMED forever at this point 🤪

Moving on, we arrived at our place of rest and because we’d gotten an email earlier in the day, we knew that it was actually a bedroom in someone’s house, apposed to it being the actual ‘house’ as we had at first thought.

Airbnb Edmonton Room

It felt a bit weird, going in through someone’s place of living, especially since they weren’t home to give a little ‘hello and what’s what’  but we had booked it and couldn’t change much at that point and the room itself seemed nice enough 🤪

So we dropped our bags and headed back out to find some food.

Maybe we weren’t in the best area of Edmonton but neither of us were very impressed with the cleanliness of the city nor the genres of folk that were out and about 😬
As we walked to the restaurant I asked Mike if he felt bushed and like we didn’t belong in the city and his immediate response was ‘yes!’ 🤪🙈
We went to ‘Meat’ and decided on sharing the brisket sandwich with pickles, a horseradish mayo and served with their garlic fries.
It was super tasty.
I’m not a big fry lover, homemade or not but these homemade style fries, not too thick and not too thin, perfectly crisp on the outside and covered in a light, almost gravy like garlic coating, were delicious 🙌🏻

The sandwich was also really good, the dill pickle and mayo adding that needed zing to the butter spread bread and brisket.

Back at the ‘room’ it was pretty much straight to bed… having been up since 5:30, gone on an early morning walk with the sister and mumsie, made breakfast, packed up, done town, doctors and 5 some hours in the truck, I was more than ready for sleep and the idea of being creeped out in someone else’s house dissipated as quickly as dream land came 😉

Hello Third Trimester ~ Bumpdate

Wednesday, June 17th –

Well, it’s crazy to think that in 12 weeks (give or take) we will have a real life, extra little human in our home 😬🤭

The first 12 weeks went pretty quickly, so if these ones go that fast… I had better get my butt in gear and get a fair chunk more of baby stuff bought and ready 😅🙈

Speaking of the first 12 weeks speed of passing, I figured I’d give an update on how pregnancy has been thus far, whether you’re actually interested or this simply turns into a journaled recollection for my sake, you decide 😉💁🏻‍♀️

During the first few weeks, I wouldn’t have been surprised if a doctor told me we weren’t actually expecting because I felt so ‘normal’ compared to all I’d read about the first trimester symptoms.
There was maybe a week or so where come evening I just felt sort of blah and there wasn’t any food that sounded good but I still felt like I needed to eat but that was about as bad as it got 🙈
I feel bad even saying that, knowing so many who are SO not that lucky 😬

As for cravings, I wasn’t thinking they came so soon, so at first I didn’t consider them ‘cravings’ so much as ‘normal desires for specific foods’ which isn’t that unheard of for me 🤪

Looking back though, I know now they were for sure STRONGLY DESIRED 😜
One such thing being tomato soup.
Cheetos were for sure a one night want.
Spicy stuff has continued to sound appealing throughout and for a while sparkling/refreshing drinks (Italian soda for example) sounded sooo appealing.

I also don’t think I’ve ever wanted mashed potatoes and gravy from ‘The Marlboro’ (a buffet restaurant here that’s been closed for years) so badly and never thought about potato’s so much during church one Sunday morning 😅

I was afraid I’d ONLY and CONSTANTLY want to eat the 7/11 brand of all dressed chips, as pre pregnancy, I could eat them on a daily.
Since being prego, I’ve not wanted them once 🤪
Up until about 2 weeks ago, I’d still been wanting coffee but that has now switched and iced coffee is the only version that sounds good.
I MISS my morning cup of java but after a few sips it just… holds zero appeal 🥴

It is so odd how your tastes can change just like that 🤔

May 10.

One thing that’s been real and only gotten more so, HEARTBURN 🤪

Tums come everywhere.
Both my mom and sister suffered with this malady during their pregnancies and it’s a thing for me now as well… I guess the wives-tail that goes with, is that your baby will have lots of hair and that was a truth for their babes, so we can hope 🤓🤞🏻

Been feeling the little goober move since around week 18 and it’s odd 🤪
The best way to describe the feeling truly is how my brother explained it, ‘it feels like a walleye bite’ 😂

If you’ve ever felt a fish nibble on your hook, that’s really how it feels, just on the inside and then of course it gets passed the nibble stage and goes to what I am now experiencing, which is the rolling insides along with the ‘strong nibbles’ 😜

I’ve been having a fair bit of upper rib pain and luckily have a brother-in-law and sister who can crack my back because I’ve had a spot that has gone out nearly daily, for months 😬
The whole ‘laying flat on the floor’ to get it cracked bit is pretty… odd 🤪 but it’s still possible at this point so I’m crossing fingers my back gets better or my belly keeps being capable of smooshing horizontal when necessary 😂

The middle niece keeps coming up to me and creepily poking/tickling my belly while saying ‘fat, fat belly’ while her sister try’s to politely tells her ‘no it’s a baby’ 😏
I exercised 5/6 days a week up till 20 weeks and have THOUGHT about working out daily since then 😬 but instead end up just going for what are typically 5 km walks.
Hunger was hitting fast and hard but has levelled out a bit and now mid morning/sometimes evening naps, are the new ‘in thing’😜👍🏻

I have had an outwardly emotional day… or three and since that is one for each trimester, I am fine with the number staying there but we shall see… if there is one thing that is weird to deal with, it’s emotions that you know are simply emotional and not logical yet not being able to really stop them. I. Don’t. Like. It. 😂

I’ve woke up from charley horses in my legs a few different times and have had close calls multiple times a night when I wake myself up stretching my legs and they begin to tighten up 🤪


Standing up after church has also brought some leg swelling/stiffness.

All this to say it’s really went quite well!
It sounds like I’m just pointing out allll the minimal issues I can think of but this has all been spread out over 27 weeks and I really can’t complain 🤓

Babes room is slowly beginning to get worked on but some items won’t be delivered until mid July.
This is somewhat how I imagine the desired aesthetic.

We do not have a name picked out yet but there are three that we are semi contemplating more than looking for new options… I want to decide and have it narrowed down to at least two but so far that hasn’t happened 🤪

June 11th.

A little babymoon is still possibly being thought about but up until now, it seemed too risky due to the restrictions still in place everywhere but with restaurants and parks opening up more and more, we shall see 😉

As always, if you have any suggestions regarding anything baby/babymoon/new parents/what was mentioned in this post etc. feel free! 😄💕

We’re Having A…

So if you haven’t seen/heard the news already, you can hear it here now… baby H is a boy 🖤
How do we know this ?? Based on its kidneys supposedly 😅🙈

On April 20th at 10:00 am, I had my second ultrasound booked.
At 19 weeks and 5 days, it would be to check all the growth and of course to find out the gender if we wanted to.
We wanted to.
Well, I wanted to for sure… Mike likes knowing but also said he’d be fine not knowing. I don’t believe him 🤪

I’ll be honest, I was hoping for a girl.
All along my thoughts of a small person have been girl directed and of course the adorable clothing available for them, room decor and fact that I’m surrounded by many more girls than boys, all played into that hope.

Yes, I do of course realize that though it can’t be planned by us, it was planned by someone much bigger and the little person will be exactly who and what we need 🖤 It will just take a few adjustment days 😉

Back to the ultrasound day…
I was worried Mike wouldn’t be able to come in and see the ultrasound with me because of all the Covid things happening right now.
The sister hadn’t even been able to wait in the doctors office during my normal doctor visit a few days before and I’d had to hand sanitize, wear a mask and was immediately directed to the room, rather than the waiting area.
So I was praying and others were as well and thankfully, there was zero said or mentioned about him being there with me!

He’d have missed a lot, as the first thing we seen was it’s little side profile but it then quickly began sucking it’s thumb and playing with its fingers.

Which is a very strange thing to see, when the last time it was seen it looked like a very insignificant..’blob’ 🤪

The tech asked if we wanted to know gender and when she got the go ahead she said, ‘alright I’ll start looking for the kidneys then’.
To which I replied, ‘the kidneys…?’.
She said that the kidneys were one of the easiest ways to tell and that boys kidneys show more fluid.
At the end of the appointment, Mike asked that the kidneys were all she needed to verify that it was a boy and she said the assured (yet slightly non committal as I’m sure they kind of have to be) ‘yep’.

(She isn’t the most emotional ultrasound lady around, everyone in the area knows of her 😅 But I assured Mike she’d been having a good day due to all the other information she’d freely given about its brain, heart, legs, movement etc.)

So, if you are, or know of an ultrasound tech who can say they’ve at least HEARD that they can tell gender via kidneys, that would be reassuring because no one we have talked to in our family and friend groups thus far, has ever heard of that 😅
Not that we are thinking it’s wrong…but also, it doesn’t feel like a super concrete way to certify this information 😂🤪

Going off the fact that it is a boy, it will be the first great grandson out of 12 other g-grands, that will actually take on the ‘Hagenouw’ name, so I feel like Mich is rather proud of that fact 😏

There have been requests for a belly update and I’m not real comfortable with my new shape situation and perfecting pictures of it yet, so you can have this birds eye view for now 😉

Tell One, Tell All!

Feb 21st –

Well, we told the remaining family members here in Sask. about the happenings 🤪
We had everyone over for oliebollen since it was Saturday and a nice warm day out for deep frying.

I set the kiddos up to ‘picnic’ downstairs since we didn’t want them to find out the news just yet, incase their secret keepings skills weren’t developed strongly enough to stay silent for a little while 🙈

Once everyone’s plates were filled and they settled into eating in the living room, it was time to open the curtains to a new subject in our lives.
Truly… we had the blinds drawn and the ultrasound photo taped on the window with a note that said, ‘eat up, Jess can’t be the only fat one this summer!’.

So finally (like 2 minutes into us all being in the right spots) I asked Mike to lift the blind 😜
Pro (the sister) was the first to see and then maybe (my bro) Nathin. Becca (my sister in law) was immediately excited/jealous and the bro in law (Josh) took more than a few moments to read and understand the meaning 😂
Mom and Dad sat, as cool as cucumbers during this all, since they already knew 😎

As it wasn’t really a SUPER expected nor SUPER unexpected announcement and we aren’t the type to be overly exuberant about such announcements, it was all accepted pretty relaxed and with calm pleasure 🤪

March 2nd –

The day the Hubster sent the photo that he would at a later date post on Instagram, to the Hagenouw family chat 🤓

It had to be sent during the correct time here, so that the family there would all be awake in order to get the news at the right time.
Because awaiting a response after a message like that, would be pretty painful 🙈

Hearts and smilies and congratulatory messages were sent to us quickly and that was that. Most of the family now knew!

The different sets of grandparents where called to let them know over the phone ☺️

Oma immediately told Mike congratulations,  that she has a gift for the baby and that she wanted to talk to me but he called her while she was at work.

She then asked if he knew what the gift was and he responded no, so she said she wouldn’t tell him 😛

She did though and his favourite childhood book will make for the perfect Dutch baby book for him to entertain our offspring with 😉

March 17 –

We decided it was time to tell Alaina and Brynlee about the baby, since they wouldn’t be seeing anyone for sometime, due to the beginning of social distancing/quarantines etc.
So after dinner, when they were hanging out with Uncle Mike (as is their usual activity it he’s around) we turned the video on and brought up the topic.
We expected their reactions to be entreating and slightly opposite, as Brynlee hadn’t been overly fond of the ‘baby’ subject when we’d work it into conversations and Alaina would pretty much start drooling 🤪

Alaina didn’t believe that we were being serious AT ALL, until given many reassurances.
She really just thought we were talking about how wonderful it WOULD be, since she’s been talking about someone in the family having a kid for at least 6 months to a year, as she absolutely loves them.

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Brynlee just said we couldn’t have a baby, cause we didn’t have toys, ‘her not fat’ and ‘them gross cause them have poop on them’ (‘Her’ and ‘them’, being ‘me’ and ‘the baby’) 🤪

When they finally believed, Brynlee become very clingy to Mike and after telling her the baby wouldn’t come until summer was over, she stated that, ‘she hoped summer was not for a long time’.🤪

Alaina just kept creepily staring at me as though she was in love and after a few minutes, asked us seriously, ‘well are you going to homeschool or send your kid to school?’.
I laughed and said that was the most serious question we’d gotten yet but before she could say more on the subject, she suddenly started to get teary eyed.
Pro was like, ‘are you going to cry??’ to which she responded ‘No!’ While grinning and shaking her head and then immediately changing her answer to ‘YES!’ While her face crumpled and she dissolved into tears and then ran upstairs, embarrassed because Pro and I started laughing at her 😂😬

It couldn’t be helped ok?? 🙈

When she came back downstairs, she and Brynlee positioned themselves beside and on me on the couch in order to discuss the newcomer 😉

Between March 17th/March 20th –

Mike called to FaceTime the nieces and nephews in Europe to tell them the news during his morning drive to work.
He told them he had a surprise and the oldest guessed that it would be about us having a baby but also it wouldn’t be, because Jessica doesn’t like or want kids so like, what? supposedly said as only a smart, mature, 11 year old could 😉
The others I believe, accepted the news as children generally take this type of announcement 🤓

Not that I really know how ‘that’ is, as it’s the first time we’ve ever had such a thing to tell 🤪

March 20th –

We didn’t get a chance before this, to tell the remaining nieces and nephew here, so when we finally did, we let Alaina break the news.
We know their parents (my bro and sister in law) are not overly expressive folks, so in all honesty we didn’t video because we expected pretty average responses 😂🙈

Which are exactly what we got 🤪

Emily, the oldest, just sort of smiled and was like, ‘she is?’.
Spencer just looked at me with kind of creeped out eyes and a smile and stuffed his face with chips and the littlest was sleepy soo the reaction was non existent 🤓

Aliana was disappointed, as she had been bursting at the seams, waiting for them to know 😜

She instead got her thrills when she called to tell her other cousin in the States the news. A fellow lover of babies, she was very excited and wishes to visit me once the baby arrives… just what I’ve always dreamed of, a baby AND two little kids hanging out with me 🤪

March 20th –

Instagram knows.

Thus, worldwide, people now know 🤪

Originally I’d just wanted to go to Hawaii (I’d have been arriving back home today) on my girls trip/babymoon with the mom and sister and then when I would get back, we’d make the announcement to everyone.

As it turned out, God/the world, had other plans 😬

Our trip was canceled, sadness ensued and by then we were pretty much already social distancing/self isolating (yes, MORE than normal 🤪).
Church had been canceled due to the limit on group gatherings and the overall lifestyle was beginning to change a bit, so it’s not as though anyone was feeling overly cheerful.
So, we figured WHY NOT tell and perhaps bring an unexpected smile to some folks 😉

I realize that to some, it may seem strange that we waited as long as we did to let people in on this, but that was because of me. As this is a pretty life changing occurrence, I needed as much time as possible to get used to the idea myself, pre ‘peopling’ 😉

A Proclamation To The Parents

Jan 22, 2020 –

Mike and I arranged a dinner to be eaten with Mother and Father…at their home.
Because they have a bbq and also because we had news to share with them 🤪

Mike purchased steaks and mushrooms and I went over to the parents a little early to prepare asparagus and a wine sauce for the steaks.
Mom made Cajun fried potatoes and supplied bread for garlic toast ☺️

We sat down for dinner and dug in.
Enjoying the tasty meal, as we tried our best to act casual, eat the food and not stress out too much for the conversation that awaited 🤭

Mike and I had discussed how to segue into the topic we wanted to broach and we used our newly purchased house investment to do so.
Just as we began talking about the correct subject, Dad got a phone call and left the room for a moment, right when we needed him to stay seated 😅
Mike kept the conversation going and once Dad returned, he causally mentioned how ‘whatever we decide to do with the house project, it has to be done by September’.

Mom responded with the expected, ‘ Why by September?’ to which I said, ‘Well, that’s when the baby comes.’

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Dads response was exactly as I expected and had told Mike it would be.
A very abrupt, ‘huh?!’ With a quizzical face and slight leaning back in his chair, though he recovered quicker than Mom.
She sat with a very wide, yet unsure grin and even larger eyes, while sort of just saying, ‘whaaaat..?’ 😂
Suffice to say they were surprised 😉

The ensuing conversation was of course as one would expect.
‘How far along, who else knows, do we have to keep it a secret? This is fairly unexpected’ etc etc.

Yes, they were the first to know, yes they had to keep it a secret from the rest of the family and yes it’s not what one would generally expect from me, the one who dislikes small humans and the idea of them 😬🤪🙈

We told them fairly early, as their semi permanent house guests (my sister and her family who were living there during house renovations) were away on a trip during that time and we wanted Mom and Dad to be the first to know.
Making our secret slightly less difficult to bear alone, dragging them along in the required silence with us 🤪👍🏻

Feb 3rd – Holland

I can’t supply a whole lot of detail on this ‘revealing’, as I wasn’t present 🤓

Mike had booked his ticket to go home for a visit before we knew our lives would be in an upheaval come fall but the timing worked out well for him to be able to tell the news to his parents, in person ☺️

He waited longer into the trip than I would have but come one evening chat with his parents, he let it out.
Supposedly in a way that they did not understand for a moment or two but once it was explained, the emotions were that of happiness… not surprisingly 😉

So, at this point both sets of parents were made aware of the news and the fact that it was to be kept between the 6.5 of us 🤞🏻😜

As I wasn’t ready for the onslaught of words from humans, we were waiting to tell anyone else at that time, because we didn’t want anymore to have to deal with ‘knowing but not being able to say’, so the telling to the rest of the family and then ‘the world’, came at a later date 😉

Oh, Baby 😳

Well, if you haven’t heard it yet via the Instagrams and the folks who assemble there… then I’m a little surprised but it’s totally fine 🤪

First question – Due date?

Come September (9th if we are trying to be specific) of this year, our family is going to grow by a mini person 😬

That’s right, we’re expecting.

That still sounds so weird ^ 🤪😬

As of this moment, I’m 16 weeks along with our visit ever offspring and things have been going good 💁🏻‍♀️

Which leads us to the second question- How I’ve been feeling?

I experienced ONE instance on a Sunday morning while preparing for church, where I suddenly got nauseous and hot and shaky but as soon as it came, it then left, never to happen again.

Thus far 😜

There was also a week or so nearer the beginning where I slept most of the day and felt hungry but absolutely nothing held appeal and opening the fridge invited disgust, so suppers for hubby were, lacking 🙈
I consider those symptoms prettttty minimal compared to things I’ve heard others go through during this stage of life though 😬

Now it’s mainly been hunger and having to eat ASAP 😜
Which doesn’t stray THAT far from my usual I guess 🤓

Next question – Are we finding out the gender?

YES! I’m not a patient person when it comes waiting for a thing that could otherwise be known and neither is Mike, so the decision wasn’t even really a decision, so much as an appointment booking 🤪

Now it’s your turn to answer questions that I have!

I can give as little, or as much detailing about this all, as you want.
I don’t want to overdose you on stories and happenings to do with this ‘situation’ 😜 unless the information is desired.

Do you want to know who we told, when and how?
Do you want to know room plans, LIFE plans?! 🙈

WHAT DO YOU WANT TO KNOW ?! 🤪

Keep in mind that the above question is asked in an ‘only slightly raised volume but mostly nice and happy’ way… I know caps can be confusing 😉

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